Family and Care Giver Support

We want to ensure you have all the information you and your family needs to access gender-affirming care. This resource page is meant to help you access more information and knowledge along your journey. Please note this not an exhaustive list of resources that are available.

Mary Bridge Children's Hospital does not provide gender-affirming surgeries.

Our gender health clinic provides a multidisciplinary three-step process that includes education, counseling and affirming medical support.

Mary Bridge Children's respects all parties with medical decision-making authority and does not provide treatment without their consent.

For Caregivers: Supporting Your Gender-Diverse Youth

Helping Youth Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents: 2nd Edition, by Irwin Kreiger 

The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professional, by Stephanie A. Brill 

The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens, by Stephanie A. Brill 

Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Health Gender-Nonconforming Children, by Diane Ehrensaft 

On the Couch with Dr. Angello: A Guide to Raising and Supporting Transgender Youth, by Dr. Michele Angello 

The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes, by Diana Ehrensaft 

Where’s my Book? A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Youth, Their Parents, and Everyone Else, by Linda Gromko 

“Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children”, by Rachel Pepper 

“Now What? A Handbook for Families with Transgender Children”, by Rex Butt 

“Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults: A Guide for Professionals and Families”, by Finn V Gratton 

"A Gender-Friendly Primer on What to Know, What to Say and What to Do in a New Gender Culture"by Lee Airton

Evidence-Based Articles for Adults, Parents and Caregivers

A Useful Guide for Parents of Trans Youth | Tacoma PFLAG

For Parents, Guardian, and Family Members Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Intersex, or Questioning Youth | Tacoma PFLAG

Understanding Gender | Gender Spectrum

Transgender Children and Youth: Understanding the Basics | The Human Rights Campaign

Talking with Your Young Children About Gender

Queer Kid Stuff: A social justice web-series for kids
A Quick and Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson

Books Appropriate for Ages 2-5

Amazing Grace by Mary Hoffman
It’s Okay to be Different by Todd Parr
Jacob’s New Dress by Sarah and Ian Hoffman
My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis
Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall
Not Every Princess by Jeffrey and Lisa Bone

Books Appropriate for ages up to 10 years

Is That For a Boy or a Girl by S. Bear Bergman
Meet Polkadot by Talcott Broadhead
I am Jazz by Jessica Herthel and Jazz Jennings
Miss Micklewhite and the Tangerine Dress by Christina Baldacchino
A Boy Like Me by Jennie Wood

Books Appropriate for Age 12+ 

Rethinking Normal: A Memoir in Transition by Katie Rain Hill
Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kristin Cronn-Mills
Tomboy: A Graphic Memoir by Liz Prince
The Gender Quest Workbook (by multiple authors)
I am J by Cris Beam
Some Assembly Required: The Not-So Secret Life of Transgender Teen by Arin Andrews
Almost Perfect by Brian  Katcher
Alex as Well by Alyssa Brugman
Stonewall: Breaking out in the Fight for Gay Rights by Ann Bausum
Queerstory: An Infographic History of the Fight for LGBTQ+ Rights by Rebecca Strickson
Gumballs by Erin Nations

Documentaries/Videos/Podcasts

Gender Revolution 2017 (92mins)
A film about gender identity produced by Katie Couric and National Geographic 

Just call me Kade 2002 (26mins)
Short film of a transgender boy living in Arizona surrounded by his supportive family 

Faces and Facets of Transgender Experiences 2000 (23mins)
Short film about the lives of 18 transgender people and their families 

Why Does My Kid Want to Change Their Name and Pronouns 2014 (4mins)
Short video, on YouTube, by “The Parents Project” on name and pronoun usage

How I Help Transgender Teens Become Who They Want to Be (17 mins)
Ted Talk by Endocrinologist, Norman Spack at Boston’s Children Hospital

Gender Basics: An Introduction to Gender 2016 (15mins)
Overview of Gender Basics, a video on YouTube, by “Gender Spectrum”

The Science of Being Transgender (Podcast: Science Vs) 2018 (41mins)
Podcast looking into the scientific background of genetics

Disclosure (107 mins)
An in-depth look at Hollywood’s depiction of transgender people and the impact of those stories on transgender lives and American culture.

Changing the Game (88 mins) 
Transgender high school athletes from across the country at the top of their fields, while also challenging the boundaries and perceptions of fairness and discrimination.

Podcasts

The Gender Diaries 

Trans-Parenting 

 Schoolhouse Talk! (Episode 5: Serving LGBTQIA+ Youth) 

Parental Family Support Resources

The Gender Health Clinic can provide additional support group meetings - please inquire with our social worker.

Stand with Trans: Ally Parents
Trans Family Support Services
Gender Identity Development in Children

Gender Nonconforming, Non binary, and Beyond the Binary Resources/Information

Gender Queer Me: Micah is a self-identified, non-binary and transgender advocate, education specialist, and real person. Their blog highlights their non-binary transition and has excellent resources for the gender nonconforming community and their loved ones

genderqueer.me – transgender & nonbinary resources

Instagram handle: genderqueer.me

Alok Vaid-Menon: Internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. They are the create of #DeGenderFashion: a movement to degender fashion and beauty industries.

www.alokvmenon.com

Instagram handle: alokvmenon

Them: Instagram handle that portrays well known and every day trans and gender nonconforming people and stories

Instagram handle: Them

Other helpful resources:

Understanding Non-Binary People: How to Be Respectful and Supportive | National Center for Transgender Equality (transequality.org)

Understanding Non-Binary Identities | Articles | Living Out

The Hardest Part of Having a Nonbinary Kid Is Other People - The New York Times (nytimes.com)

The Struggles of Rejecting the Gender Binary - The New York Times (nytimes.com)

'It’s how I feel. It’s not how you feel': four teens explain why they reject the gender binary | Gender | The Guardian

Resources Related to Disordered Eating

Center for Discovery:  Center for Discovery has a longstanding commitment to understanding eating disorders and developing the very best programs for treating them.

 Understanding Eating Disorders in the LGBTQ+ Community (centerfordiscovery.com) 

FEDUP: FEDUP is a collective of trans+, intersex, and gender diverse people who believe eating disorders in marginalized communities are social justice issues.

FEDUP | Fighting Eating Disorders in Underrepresented Populations: A Trans+ & Intersex Collective (fedupcollective.org)

Nutrition Guidance for Trans and Gender Diverse Individuals: Released from St. Louis University in 2020; inclusive articles and guides for all body types and gender identities.

https://sites.google.com/slu.edu/transgendernutrition/home  

*Our team and registered dietician can assist in finding more resources and providing an inclusive support system to begin and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Community Resources for LGBTQ+ Youth and Young Adults

Please visit each center’s website for update to date groups, meetings, hours, and other resources.

Oasis Youth Center
Tacoma, WA // 253-671-2838
Ages 14-24

Stonewall Youth Center
Olympia, WA // 360-888-4273
Ages 12-21

Pizza Klatch
Olympia, WA // 360-339-7574
Located in all Thurston County High Schools-contact school for date/times

The Space LGBTQ Youth Center
Yakima, WA // 509-574-4216
Ages 13-23

The Lambert House
Seattle, WA // 206-322-2515
Ages 11-22

The Odyssey Youth Movement
Spokane, WA // 509-325-3637
Ages 13-18

The Q Center 
Bremerton, WA // 360-515-2220
Ages 13-18

Trans and Queer Youth Collective
1:1 free mentorship program for trans youth grades 6-12

Resources and Information Pertaining to Social Transition

Legal Name Change Resources

*Each county has their own fees. If your county is not listed below you can use a search engine and type “legal name change in ___ county.”

If/when you legally change your name, fax a copy of the order to the Gender Health Clinic at 253-403-9129 and we can ensure your name is legally changed in your medical chart.

Pierce County
Pierce County Legal Name Change Document 

Thurston County
Thurston County legal name change document, under 18
Thurston County legal name change document, adult 

Kitsap County

+QLaw Legal Name Change

Gender Designation/Marker Changes

Each state has its own laws and regulations regarding gender marker changes. If you were born outside of the state of Washington you will need to inquire with the state of your birth.

Washington State Driver Licenses and ID
Washington State Sex Designation Change on a Birth Certificate
Legal Name and Gender Marker Change Microgrants

Social Media Support and Educational Groups

Facebook Groups


Puget Sound Queer FamiliesFor families looking to engage in group outing and meet supportive community. “Queer is Queer, whatever that means to you!” All ages are welcome, great group for families with children

Tacoma Rainbow Center // 2215 Pacific Ave, Tacoma 98402 // E: [email protected]

This is a closed group for confidentiality. Families must request permission to attend (can also send email to above address)

Serendipitydodah - Home of the Mama Bears: “The Mama Bears organization is a network of groups, websites, special projects, and resources dedicated to supporting, educating and empowering Moms of LGBTQ kids and the LGBTQ community”. 

PARENTS Support Group of LGBTQ* Teens, Children, and Adults: “This is a support group ONLY for parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender pre-teens, teenagers, and adults” 

Parents of Transgender Children: Private group for parents or immediate caregivers of transgender, gender-fluid, gender-questioning, or other gender-nonconforming children (of any age)

Instagram Handles 

@transcendthebinary | Great for those wanting to learn about a large variety of queer and trans identities and less commonly used pronouns.

 @pinkmantaray Trans masculine D1 athlete who shares his experience in the athletic program as well as educational material around transition.

@queersurgeon Queer educator and plastic surgeon who provides educational material about common gender affirming surgical options.

@Allgendernutrition Education surrounding trans-centered nutrition and social justice.

@lgbt_history Educational account covering intersectional LGBTQIA+ history.

@wokekindergarten Black queer voice with an anti-racist agenda in the early learning community.

@mysonwearsheels Straight, cisgender mother of queer and trans teen, sharing her experience and education about effective LGBTQIA+ allyship.

Binding Educational Information

If you are binding, want to start binding, or have questions on binding - our doctor, nurse, and social worker can help you learn more and ensure you are taking the appropriate safety measures when binding.

Safer Binding Guide by Callen-Lorde
Gender Health Clinic “Chest Binding Basics” Guide

Tucking Educational Information

If you are tucking, want to start tucking, or have questions on tucking, our Clinic doctor, nurse, and social worker can help you learn more and ensure you are taking the appropriate safety measures when tucking.

Safe Tucking Guide by Callen-Lorde
Gender Health Clinic “Tucking 101” Guide

Information on Detransitioning

Dispelling Myths Around Detransition | Stonewall 

Fertility Information

Fertility Preservation Options for Gender-Diverse Individuals

Need legal support?

We do not have a legal team on site. We do have a legal team that is able to review court orders, parenting plans, and other legal documents but they cannot offer ongoing legal support or advice. Please note that we must follow the state law when it comes to gender affirming medication intervention. Our team can review these requirements upon intake and while you are enrolled with our clinic

Lavender Rights Project: The Lavender Rights Project is a grassroots organization providing legal services by and for trans and non-binary people, with a focus on serving the Black and Indigenous gender diverse community

https://www.lavenderrightsproject.org